“The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead, he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.” 2 Peter 3:9 NIV
“You are driven.”
Those three words cut straight to my heart.
I knew she didn’t mean them in a sweet “Driving Miss Daisy” sort of way.
They had more of a “Tina, (why must you always) take the wheel” connotation.
Yet, in the depths of my soul, I knew she was right.
So, instead of ignoring it (believe me, I tried), I chose to face it.
And, it didn’t take long to see what was missing…
That word everyone says NOT to pray for because you just might get it.
You know the one.
“Whoever is patient has great understanding, but one who is quick-tempered displays folly.” Proverbs 14:29 NIV
As I reflected on patience and my drivenness, a few “aha” moments emerged.
I’d rather patiently trust than regretfully rush.
Ever had regrets, friend? Me too. And the common theme in most of mine is rush. Whenever I’ve rushed into a decision…whether in a relationship, a job, or anything else that was driving me at the time, regret closely followed. My determination to get what I thought I wanted at that moment smothered everything else and eventually, fell apart. These days, I’m trying to patiently trust God’s (sometimes longer, oftentimes different) path, which grows me into His very best and without regrets.
“Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.” James 1:4 NIV
My instant wants are never as perfect as His patient desires.
I remember it well. My big 3-0 was right around the corner and I was still single. Unfortunately, I spent a lot of my dating years looking for love in all the wrong places. I was “driven” to find my soulmate and listened to every voice, but His. When I finally hit the brakes and became content in my singleness, my now-husband soon followed. I wouldn’t trade a thing for that wait.
“But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently.” Romans 8:25 NIV
Love really is patient.
“Love is patient.” I used to think those words from 1 Corinthians 13 were all about me. How love requires patience because people that I love require patience. But, really, dear one, it’s way bigger than that. Think about God’s huge love for us. How patient He is in the midst of our “driven”. How His love for us never changes. Ever. How patient love is better love, everlasting love, forever love.
I want to love like that, don’t you?
“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.” Colossians 3:12 NIV
Beloved, although patience and I still aren’t BFF’s, I’m finding more joy in the journey, more trust in the trenches. There’s freedom in letting God be the driver of my life, whatever that looks like.
Driving Miss Driven?
Yes, Lord. I’m all yours. XO